Comments on: Doing Things for Myself http://raamenchan.com/2009/09/05/doing-things-for-myself/ Making Dreams Come True in 70 Days Mon, 08 Feb 2010 05:35:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: BOMBSHELL_AIDA_COMMENT_U http://raamenchan.com/2009/09/05/doing-things-for-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-233 BOMBSHELL_AIDA_COMMENT_U Sat, 19 Sep 2009 07:51:15 +0000 http://raamenchan.com/?p=334#comment-233 Guys are actually the master of giving and as long as the girl appreciates and acknowledges those givings, guys are PLENTY happy with giving. Now, what you might not know is girls have problems on know how to take. Some girls might even reject compliments and the way a gentleman acts because they thought they don't deserve it. You are not dating one so you might not realize it BUT a lot of girls deem themselves unworthy. While the society sets it's standards on us, rarely do girls feel good about themselves and think that they are enough. They either take more to justify their worth in this world, or they just try to be a nice girl and give as much as they can and get tired and sad. Resentment is the result in both situation. Love yourself Raiman. Giving is not a bad thing, it's just that you might not get the appreciation you are looking for because you set high standards once you encounter in any type of relationships that are important to you. And stand up for what you think is right ones in a while keeps things afresh~! Cuz if you always live under people's influences and standards, you are just going to be as good as people want you to be. I agree with Hiroaki's story BTW ■I want to take control of my life ■I want to decide my own destiny ■I want to be proud of myself ■I want to sleep early and wake up early ■I want to exercise regularly ■I want to stop being the hare and learn from the tortoise (from the Aesop fable) ■I want to start telling people what I want from them ■I want to stop acting only “depending on the situation” ■I want to keep my apartment clean ■I want to make a great income ■I want to have the freedom to buy what I want, go where I want ■I want to have to stop apologizing for stupid mistakes ■I want to feel happy and fulfilled every day and yes... cancel all these I wants... cuz you are always going to look forward to wanting things instead of really acting them out. Guys are actually the master of giving and as long as the girl appreciates and acknowledges those givings, guys are PLENTY happy with giving. Now, what you might not know is girls have problems on know how to take. Some girls might even reject compliments and the way a gentleman acts because they thought they don’t deserve it. You are not dating one so you might not realize it BUT a lot of girls deem themselves unworthy. While the society sets it’s standards on us, rarely do girls feel good about themselves and think that they are enough. They either take more to justify their worth in this world, or they just try to be a nice girl and give as much as they can and get tired and sad. Resentment is the result in both situation. Love yourself Raiman. Giving is not a bad thing, it’s just that you might not get the appreciation you are looking for because you set high standards once you encounter in any type of relationships that are important to you. And stand up for what you think is right ones in a while keeps things afresh~! Cuz if you always live under people’s influences and standards, you are just going to be as good as people want you to be. I agree with Hiroaki’s story BTW

■I want to take control of my life
■I want to decide my own destiny
■I want to be proud of myself
■I want to sleep early and wake up early
■I want to exercise regularly
■I want to stop being the hare and learn from the tortoise (from the Aesop fable)
■I want to start telling people what I want from them
■I want to stop acting only “depending on the situation”
■I want to keep my apartment clean
■I want to make a great income
■I want to have the freedom to buy what I want, go where I want
■I want to have to stop apologizing for stupid mistakes
■I want to feel happy and fulfilled every day

and yes… cancel all these I wants… cuz you are always going to look forward to wanting things instead of really acting them out.

]]> By: Ah Mui http://raamenchan.com/2009/09/05/doing-things-for-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Ah Mui Tue, 08 Sep 2009 23:23:08 +0000 http://raamenchan.com/?p=334#comment-232 You know what you should do?!?! Go to a cat cafe! I don't know if you've been to one before (I've been to one in Hong Kong), but you should go hang with maos =). And like we all know, they're great at relieving stress. I don't know where you are in Tokyo area exactly, but here's a place that looks nice =) http://hinome.dip.jp/~cateriam/ They have a bunch on google too! You know what you should do?!?! Go to a cat cafe! I don’t know if you’ve been to one before (I’ve been to one in Hong Kong), but you should go hang with maos =). And like we all know, they’re great at relieving stress. I don’t know where you are in Tokyo area exactly, but here’s a place that looks nice =) http://hinome.dip.jp/~cateriam/ They have a bunch on google too!

]]> By: Hiroaki Asakawa http://raamenchan.com/2009/09/05/doing-things-for-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Hiroaki Asakawa Sat, 05 Sep 2009 20:48:29 +0000 http://raamenchan.com/?p=334#comment-231 Perhaps your personality is changing your personality to befit the atmosphere around you. Like a chameleon. It is definitely not a bad thing. I definitely know what you mean by giving and giving and never taking. However I think it's not that you don't feel satisfied with not taking, but rather not being satisfied for being appreciated for giving. I have two stories for you. The first is about me and a friend. I feel that I keep giving and giving, but I really never feel appreciated. I feel like I am taken for granted. I don't really care if they give back, I just want to feel like I matter to them. Perhaps getting something from them would show me that they appreciate me. But simple words would suffice. Another story is about my coworker. She is a really bitter old woman. She got mad at me because I was really late yesterday. I did call in and told my boss. When I got there, my coworker got angry with me and what not. At first I was all "Who the hell are you?" But then I realized it really wasn't about me. It was about her being unhappy with her life. I mean, she hates her husband, and she always tells me she's envious of me because I'm young and I'm single. She's taking in her niece and nephew, but I could really tell she doesn't really want them there. She is incapable of loving. She is even paying for most of her sister's flight to the U.S. just so she (her sister) can take care of her kids for 10 days while she goes out and relax. I quote, "I never have time for myself so I'm going to have her come and take care of her kids so I can relax for 10 days." That is "taking" in disguise of "giving". Also she adds money to a customers bill just because he leaves very little tip. Then she puts the difference in the tip, rewriting the bill so that the boss doesn't see. I really disagree to this, and I think I have been too much of a pushover to speak out. But I will tell her that she can keep the tip all to herself since I don't want to be responsible for stealing. Also she steals from our boss too. Whenever the sushi bar customers leave cash and "no change", she pockets some of the tip money while she takes the cash to the register. I really don't understand how on top of all this, she can ask to borrow their SUV to go to a trip to Las Vegas. She is the epitome of taking and never giving. She takes so much, but she is so unhappy. Most of the things you listed above, they can be obtained with giving. I used to take take take take. I find that giving is much more satisfying, as long as I feel some sort of appreciation. This is a wake up call though. I think I was supposed to be coworkers with this lady so I can realize myself that taking will lead to becoming her. I think you are in good shape. Perhaps your personality is changing your personality to befit the atmosphere around you. Like a chameleon. It is definitely not a bad thing.

I definitely know what you mean by giving and giving and never taking. However I think it’s not that you don’t feel satisfied with not taking, but rather not being satisfied for being appreciated for giving. I have two stories for you. The first is about me and a friend. I feel that I keep giving and giving, but I really never feel appreciated. I feel like I am taken for granted. I don’t really care if they give back, I just want to feel like I matter to them. Perhaps getting something from them would show me that they appreciate me. But simple words would suffice. Another story is about my coworker. She is a really bitter old woman. She got mad at me because I was really late yesterday. I did call in and told my boss. When I got there, my coworker got angry with me and what not. At first I was all “Who the hell are you?” But then I realized it really wasn’t about me. It was about her being unhappy with her life. I mean, she hates her husband, and she always tells me she’s envious of me because I’m young and I’m single. She’s taking in her niece and nephew, but I could really tell she doesn’t really want them there. She is incapable of loving. She is even paying for most of her sister’s flight to the U.S. just so she (her sister) can take care of her kids for 10 days while she goes out and relax. I quote, “I never have time for myself so I’m going to have her come and take care of her kids so I can relax for 10 days.” That is “taking” in disguise of “giving”. Also she adds money to a customers bill just because he leaves very little tip. Then she puts the difference in the tip, rewriting the bill so that the boss doesn’t see. I really disagree to this, and I think I have been too much of a pushover to speak out. But I will tell her that she can keep the tip all to herself since I don’t want to be responsible for stealing. Also she steals from our boss too. Whenever the sushi bar customers leave cash and “no change”, she pockets some of the tip money while she takes the cash to the register. I really don’t understand how on top of all this, she can ask to borrow their SUV to go to a trip to Las Vegas. She is the epitome of taking and never giving. She takes so much, but she is so unhappy. Most of the things you listed above, they can be obtained with giving. I used to take take take take. I find that giving is much more satisfying, as long as I feel some sort of appreciation. This is a wake up call though. I think I was supposed to be coworkers with this lady so I can realize myself that taking will lead to becoming her. I think you are in good shape.

]]> By: Nate Tong http://raamenchan.com/2009/09/05/doing-things-for-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Nate Tong Sat, 05 Sep 2009 14:51:05 +0000 http://raamenchan.com/?p=334#comment-230 As my idol, Utada Hikaru, would say, "keep tryin." =D As my idol, Utada Hikaru, would say, “keep tryin.”

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